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Four Things A Girl Should Never Do After A Break Up

Four Things A Girl Should Never Do After A Break Up


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Contrary to what so-called relationship experts say, breaking up can never be amicable at the moment it is done. There is always the dumper and the dumpee. The dumper, or heartbreaker, usually has little difficulty moving on; in fact, he initiated the break up for precisely that reason – wanting to move on. It’s the dumpee who has a problem accepting that it’s over, there is no more “us” and no looking forward to the things that couples do.

If you’re at the receiving end of a split, you’ve probably gone through a host of conflicting emotions, vacillating between anger and well-wishing, hurt and resentment, longing and wanting revenge. The period of mourning varies for each individual, from a few days to many months, depending on how one handles being discarded.

Although it’s not easy when you’re still licking your wounds, think of the long term. Before you act on your impulses, consider the outcome. How will it make you look or feel afterwards? Above all, keep your dignity intact. Then, when you’re over it and you bump into your ex, you can hold your head up high because you didn’t’ grovel and beg and plead, even if you were hurting inside.

Here are some things you should avoid doing in the aftermath of a heart-rending, gut-wrenching breakup.

Don’t stalk him, online or physically.

Don’t track his every post or tweet or the images he uploads and comment on them. Don’t make or send unwanted, obscene or threatening posts, photos or messages via email, through social media or the cell phone. It will only make you look pathetic. Worse, it can get you into legal trouble if the ex decides to take action. According to Tad Nelson & Associates, a law firm in Texas, internet stalking is an offense that you can be charged with if you persist in the above-mentioned acts.

Don’t ask to be “just friends.”

Being friends with your ex may come later, when you’re already seeing someone else, but not just now. You’ll only be prolonging the agony, especially when he says yes and then proceeds to treat you like one of his buddies.

Distance yourself from him and all the places you used to frequent and even your mutual friends. You need time alone for and with yourself. Lament the loss and cry your eyes out, but do it in private with only one or two of your best and trusted friends.

Don’t start a smear campaign against your ex.

Mudslinging is ugly. Spreading word that your ex is a lousy son of a gun, a ne’er-do-well will backfire on you. Instead of bringing him down, you’ll only be seen as a bitter woman who can’t take being dumped graciously.

Don’t beg for another chance.

There’s nothing more humiliating than a woman having to go down on her knees to plead for her ex to come back to her. Don’t promise you’ll change into the woman he wants you to be. You wouldn’t want a man to be with you out of pity. Plus, you’ll always be wondering if he really loves you or he’s just giving in to you for the meantime.

Realize that there’s another world out there, one without your ex, and it’s up to you if you will move on or stay stuck in a one-sided relationship.

Marie Miller studied psychology and writes about family, parenting and relationship advice.

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3 Fun Family Getaways for the Off-Season That Wont Break the Bank

3 Fun Family Getaways for the Off-Season That Wont Break the Bank


If the words “family vacation” give you images of Chevy Chase, Wally World and a two-second stop at the Grand Canyon, it’s time for an attitude adjustment. In spite of all the lampooning, families still travel together (and enjoy doing so, too). And according to a 2012 survey by the trend-tracking group Morpace Omnibus, almost 60 percent of families take their vacations during the summer months, for the obvious reason: the kids are out of school. But family vacations don’t have to include crowds and lots of standing in line. Maybe it’s time you took your family vacation during the off-season.

Off-season travel can be quite attractive for budget-conscious, crowd-wary families. It brings lower rates, better services and lower gasoline prices, Business Insider reports, which are huge benefits for families who prefer driving over flying. In fact, gas prices are even lower this year due to a mild hurricane season, United Press Interntational reports. So where can the 40 percent who decide to hold back in the summer find a good off-season vacation spot? Here are a few suggestions for regional off-season vacation spots that can help you reclaim the family vacation.

Affordable, East Coast Beach Combing

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If you live on the East Coast, check out the Outer Banks of North Carolina, a 200-mile stretch of barrier islands off the coast. Families can save hundreds of dollars on weekly home rentals if they go outside June through August, reports. Even better, there is a lot to do during the off-season. Late spring and early fall seasons are considered the best times for fishing, kiteboarding and windsurfing, and there are several festivals held during this low-tourist time.

Year-Round Entertainment in Wisconsin Dells

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In the Midwest, much of the Wisconsin Dells stays open year-round. The Dells, a feature of the Wisconsin River, are glacial gorges that melted after the last Ice Age about 15,000 years ago. This very popular tourist destination is best-known for its water parks and draws large summertime crowds, but several Dells waterparks are indoors and open year-long. Other indoor Dells activities include bowling, mini-golf, concerts, sauna packages—the list goes on and on. Outdoor winter activities include skiing and snowboarding, zipline tours and sleigh rides. You can find packages at and save even more money.

Cheap Skiing in the Southwest

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In the Southwest, it’s hard to beat Arizona for winter sports. Although most people think of Arizona as a year-round oven , much of the state is in higher, cooler territory, making the Flagstaff area a winter mecca for skiing and snowboarding. The Arizona Snowbowl, located just seven miles north of this small, friendly and inexpensive city, makes for an affordable ski vacation, particularly if you opt to stay in one of Flagstaff’s many motels. While prices for the Snowbowl’s daily adult lift tickets do rise a bit during the Christmas season, junior rates for ages 8-12 are a bargain at $15, kids ages 7 and younger are free. features more about skiing on the cheap in Arizona.

If sledding is your thing, the parks around Northern Arizona University are large, hilly and free to all.

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